Everyone tells you that you should stay in the present, and there are times when this is true; your moment to moment happenings can be a struggle if you dwell too much on the past.
And every so often those small things that happen to you may trigger a good moment in the past that you want to think about.
And that is good, because even if a past relationship ended badly, there had to be some good moments there somewhere.
My happy moments always include those times when my children were young and growing so quickly. I try to savor those dear moments like the first step and the first day of school but now they are a bit blurry but still there to greet me with a smile when I want to move into the past for a few moments in time.
Happy moments from your past can change your present mood and should be cherished. And when you need a refreshing moment; think a happy thought that moves you, and like Peter Pan this thought can help you to fly through your past and present moments with a smile.
Gather others into your memories too; your children, parents and friends will want to hear about your happy times.
In all the places that I have lived, I have found garden time dear to my heart. Not only flower gardens, but vegetables and herb gardens that I find fun to create. You do not have to be good at gardening; just good at tending; pulling the weeds, watering and watching. It is like your life; tending to children, aging parents, pets; they all need and enjoy your caring ways.
My greatest moments in life were spent in beautiful gardens that I created; tending, watching, and just sitting in a summer moment on the porch smelling the freshness of the day.
Do not fear delving into your past, and taking time with those good moments; mindfully dismissing some of the not so magical times, and getting back to your center where all the harmony and love lies.