>On Relationships: Selflessness

>People fall in love but sometimes they forget how much work it is to keep a relationship. When partners learn to be selfless instead of selfish in a relationship, without expecting anything in return, that is when the partnership can bloom.
Harvelle Hendrix in his book: Getting the Love you Want, describes selflessĀ as “reality” love. ” When partners learn to see each other without distortions, to value each other as highly as they value themselves, to give without expecting anything in return, to commit themselves fully to each other’s welfare, love moves freely between them without apparent effort.” He also describes this partnership as “Love between friends,” The partner is now perceived as a passionate friend.

Here is a description of this rare kind of love in 1 Corinthians 13:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in truth. It always protects. It always trusts, always hopes, always preseveres. Love never fails.”

Taken in part from: Hendrix, H. 1988). Getting the Love you Want.New York, NY. Henry Holt & Co.