“What will be, will be” is the title of a song that Doris Day sang many moons ago. I know, because I was told I was named after her, and this song!!
My dad told me that he wanted boys- but got girls- so he stuck by this song. If you know any of the lyrics, it goes like this:
When I was just a little girl, I asked my mother, what will I be?
Will I be happy, will I be pretty, will I be rich? Here’s what she said to me:
Que-Sera-Sera, whatever will be will be- Que-Sera- Sera!
This was such a famous song that it was sung in a move- The Man Who Knew Too Much, 1956, receiving an academy award for best original song.
Originally, it was titled: Whatever will be will be, ( Que-Sera-Sera) written by Jay Livingston and Ray Evans, who previously won best song in 1948 and 1950.
This song says it all! We do not know what the future will bring, so we have to stop worrying about what is going to happen next!!
Being named after this song leads me to believe that I may also need to find my way with worrying.
I explored it recently and found that if you really want to stop worrying about everything, the best thing to do is schedule a worry time. Jay Cleve, in his book Out of the Blues suggests that a proper worry time will cut down on your worrying- and may also prevent depression, because you have found a way to deal with the worry!
So, save your worry time to a specific time and place, and remember that ” What will be, will be!” We have no control of what our future will bring – so we should stop worrying about it all the time.
Taken in part from: Cleve, J ( 1996) Out of the Blues. New York, NY. Berkley Books.